The end of a marriage is often a difficult and emotionally draining process. In addition to seeing your court settlements through, you are also having to plan for your future, balance a budget, and possibly navigate the daunting task of learning how to co-parent with your now ex-spouse. Understandably, many people do not take the time during the divorce process to stop and consider their own emotions and mental well-being as they embark on a new stage of life.
Do Not View Your Relationship as a Failure
Many marriages grow apart, and you may be tempted to view
the end of your marriage as a defeat. As divorce in general has lost much of
its former stigma, therefore end of a relationship should not be considered a
failure. Viewing your ended relationship
as a failure may hinder your ability to move on with your life – instead
consider it as something that simply stopped serving you. No doubt, your
marriage had its good moments and those moments have encouraged growth within
yourself. Understanding the benefits of a ‘failed’ relationship is key to
helping your journey forward.
Say Goodbye
It is normal for your relationship to have a grieving
period. You are unwinding a huge part of your own life and as part of viewing
your divorce healthily, it is ideal if you and your ex-partner are able to sit down
together to compassionately reflect on your marriage. Circumstances may not
always allow this, but if you can come together with your ex to say goodbye and
wish each other the best moving forward it will help you achieve a sense of
closure. If emotions or safety concerns prevent you from being able to take
this time with your ex, you can still ‘say goodbye’ on your own. Bid farewell
to the things in your marriage that you are looking forward to never seeing
again. Reflect on why your marriage had to come to an end and make a commitment
to put those negative things in the past so you can avoid the same mistakes on
the road ahead.
Stay Positive
Any divorce has the possibility of becoming tense and filled
with heated exchanges. Studies show that children who are exposed to high amounts
of parental conflict are at greater risk to develop psychological or social
problems. Additionally, the added stress will only make navigating the divorce
more difficult for you. Try to keep a positive environment around you, your
former partner, and your children. Try
to set your ex-spouse up for success, if you can: use friendly emojis in your texting, offer
help and gratitude, if appropriate, and allow your children to be excited about
spending time with the other parent.
Keeping an upbeat, positive outlook will spill over and be beneficial to
all parties involved – even if you are the only person committed to doing it.
Place Trust in a Friend
You need a shoulder to lean on. Rely on your closest friend
or family member that you trust. Divorce is difficult and it is imperative that
you have an outlet to speak freely. A confidant can help you through the
difficult moments and act as a sounding board as you make the crucial decisions
surrounding your new life. However, it is important to pick your confidant
wisely: this person should not be second-guessing your decisions or provoking
you to more conflict, but rather should be supporting and validating your
emotions. Also, it is best if you choose only one friend to act as your
confidant. It is common to feel the urge to overshare during this time in your
life, but it has the potential to be used against you and could even alienate
the people with whom you seek to connect.
Relying on a single trusted source provides the outlet you need without
the possibility of oversharing information that could hurt you down the road.
Keep Your Schedule
Much of the anxiety in a divorce comes from the feeling of
being lost. So much of your life is in turmoil, and the changes are sudden. To
help yourself feel more settled, it is essential to keep as much of your daily
and weekly routines as possible. This will help prevent isolation, and even
though some activities may not bring you the same joy as they did before, you
should still commit to doing them on a regular schedule. Sticking to your
normal schedule will help you adjust and make your life feel as normal as
possible.
No matter the situation, remember to take time to care for
yourself. An experienced attorney can help you not only navigate the legal
issues surrounding your separation but will also commit to helping you move
forward in your life. If you need additional resources to focus on your mental
health do not be afraid to ask those around you, including your attorney, for
recommendations and help.
Jenkins & Kamin, LLP cares about their clients and wants
every stage of their divorce to go as smoothly and favorably as possible. They
are committed to helping you throughout your case and beyond by providing
resources and legal counseling to help you begin your new life in the best
position.
Jenkins & Kamin LLP is noted for its “team” approach by
pairing skilled attorneys, paralegals, and other support staff to enhance each
client’s experience in difficult life transitions.
In addition to the “team” approach, Jenkins & Kamin, LLP
strives to personalize case strategies for each individual client, including
identification of particular legal issues and effective explanation of the law
concerning those issues. The firm
endeavors to achieve a resolution that is appropriate for each client, while
aggressively advocating on their behalf when necessary. Having a dedicated and
experienced team working with you in any family law matter is of utmost importance
to achieve the best result possible.
Jenkins & Kamin LLP represents clients in the following
aspects of family law practice: Marital Property Agreements, Divorce, Complex
Property Issues, Child Custody & Visitation, Child Support, Parentage, Modifications,
Domestic Violence Issues, Family Law Appeals, and Dispute Resolution
Alternatives. To learn more about the firm, visit http://www.jenkinskamin.com
or contact one of the offices in the greater Houston area.
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